By Geraldo Goulart
Let your light so shine before men… (Mt, 5:16)
Usually we classify as “difficult people” those who, as a rule, do not share our values, desires and expectations. Would that constitute what would really characterize a “difficult person”? Maybe not. Most of us know people, intimate or not, that seem to “run in the same pack” with us or with others who we also know, that’s, are partners in almost all occasions, they tread on the same ground, they go together, they have the same hankerings and desires and … even so, they are hard in personal relationship, yet!
In fact, the parameter used to classify such creatures is the reflections of their temperaments, which we seldom understand, together with their motivations and inconsistencies. These people generally have a highly variable mood. With the same ease with which they smile, frown the brows; sometimes kind, sometimes irritable. They leave us disconcerted because we do not know what we did or what we fail to do, to sow their ever threatening discontent.
Living together with that kind of person whether at home or in a religious or professional environment, in the club, in the gym, requires patience and tolerance. In short, for such companionship we need to have and offer LOVE. When there is love in any relationship, everything is indeed easier.
We need to understand these people who life puts around us with the magnifying glass of spiritual knowledge. Why do they treated us like this? Why are they like piles of stones in our evolutionary path? Do they cross paths with us in life just to test us? On the other hand, are they people from who we became debtors at some point in the past? The ability to respond with a “yes” or “no” to any of the questions confuses us more than it helps, because there would be valid answers to all of them questions.
“Bad temper” so much suggests a diseased liver as well as an afflicted soul, confused, lacking in enlightenment and protection. Understanding that the Lord of Life always sends us the help in the most unusual ways, we are the “persecuted”, the “tormented”, holders of the medicine for those needy others, as we have overcome these needs and we are living with an elevated sense.
It behooves us to take the first step and embark on the search for understanding. We are never randomly placed in critical situations with people like that. We must not turn our back on them, relegating them to oblivion because we are “wounded” by what they did or said.
Through repeated examples of fraternal conversation, the temperamental will concede. So, friend reader, if you have someone like that in your day-by-day living, “let your light shine” because it alone, “your light” fueled by clarification oil and unquestioned love, will enable difficult people around you to find the path of well-being and inner peace that will soften their feeling, transmuting them into fraternal brothers who encourage also others “difficult people” to change themselves through the understanding that we need to love one another.
On earth we are guided to learn that what we have lacked, failed, or have to atone for what we have done in the past. Hence, what we perceive as unfair suffering in our life are actually trials assigned to us for our betterment. Discover how to handle and even thrive during the blackest moments of your life; read The Problem is the Solution – 7 Life Complications Sent to Test and Teach You. The ability to emerge from each dark episode in your life a more loving and caring person is the greatest triumph you can imagine for your life on this shiny blue planet.